- April 24, 2014
- Category: Family Law
Marriage is not easy; it is something that you must work daily. While initially each pair promised to love and honor, in time, fights, anger and resentment, all seems forgotten and separation seems the only option.
However, if you still feel you must analyze it and want to keep fighting to regain what they had, you can achieve it. Read our tips to rescue a marriage on the brink of divorce then!
Identify the Problem
When marriage does not operate, it is useful to be specific and say exactly what we want and what we feel. The general terms not really serve to identify the problem. It is essential that both feel you identify what is causing the discomfort in order to work on it. Sean communication problems trust or intimacy, it is important to be clear with the other and say exactly what things bother them.
Avoid Blame Someone
When identifying the problem, it is likely to feel the need to blame both him and yourself for what happens. But you must stop that from happening: avoid blame someone changes the dynamics and behavior so that they can work on the problem without creating a fight or resentment.
You Acknowledge and Agree what must Change
It is likely that after talking the two attitudes have to be changed. And that is something they must do individually. While it is very easy to identify what is wrong in the other, it may be difficult to accept that one is doing things wrong. But it is important to accept what the other feels without question and see how you can change to a healthier relationship.
Create an Action Plan
Knowing what the other feels and express what we feel helps us identify well what is happening. However, after that it is essential to create a plan that allows them to improve and solve problems. To do this, and if your husband is willing to work with you, it is best to try to agree on the different ways in which they can improve the weaknesses of the relationship.
Be sure to make a specific plan, and avoid blame among you, as they must work together to improve. Try to see different ways to solve problems, avoid words that result in fights and always respected and not cross boundaries.
Identify What Works
You must identify the bad, so must so good. Celebrate the good things about marriage will help them feel more united and more eager to improve the relationship and stay together. Tell your partner the things you love him and vice versa to feel appreciated and have more reasons to defend what they have.
It is easy to recognize that something is wrong in the relationship but to rescue a marriage from a divorce is important to be honest and look for ways to solve it and always fight for the relationship if that love still exists.
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